What is Verbal Abuse?Verbal abuse, also known as reviling, is a type of abusive behavior using language. Now, before I go into talking about verbal abuse, I want everyone to know the signs of verbal abuse caused by the abuser.
- Actions of ignoring, ridiculing, disrespecting, and criticizing others consistently.
- A manipulation of words.
- Purposeful humiliation of others.
- Accusing others falsely for the purpose of manipulating a person's decision making.
- Manipulating people to submit to undesirable behavior.
- Making others feel unwanted and unloved.
- Threatening to leave the family destitute.
- Placing the blame and cause of the abuse onto others.
- Isolating a person from some type of support system, consisting of friends or family.
In order to know you are being Verbally abused, you need to know what a healthy relationship is and what you want. The abuser wants to be in control, if he/she does not like the way you are, they will convince you through anger to change that. This is why females are verbally abused so easily. Most people will say females get more attached then males, but we will not argue if this is true or not. This will be solely an example. If a female falls for a male, and he constantly tells her she is ugly and fat, the female will try to change her apperance for him. Now, we know it would be easier to walk away, but when you are attached to someone that is not easy to do. Most of the time the male is the abuser, but there are cases where the female is the abuser.
If your partner can not respect, love, and care for you for the person you are, then there is a good chance you will receive verbal abuse. The healing process can be very hard. First, you really need to recognize that you are being abused. You need to confront the abuser, and right away you will be hit with denial. The abuser always denies what he/she is doing, and will say something along the lines of "What is your problem". They still want to show control, and their goal is to make you feel bad and wrong. If you can get past that, you are more then on the right track for your healing process.
The abuser, usually becomes abusive because he/she has been abused in the past. You need to get into their head, and figure out why they do it. The main reason most of the time is because they have been abused, and then become the abuser to learn to deal with it, by doing it themselves.
Watch what you say to the people that mean most to you. Words, are the most hurtful weapon. Verbal abuse, tends to lead to physical, emotional, and even sexual abuse.
"The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit." (Psalm 34:18)
